heartbroken

Little thoughts : it's really pathetic how I keep trying to hold onto something that is not coming backk.... and it FINALLY came to a point where my heart couldn't break anymoree....

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12 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

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1 - IT'S REALLY NOT THE END OF THE WORLD!
No matter how heartbroken or distressed you are or how much pain you're in now, try to remember that, amazing as it may seem, THIS TOO SHALL PASS - - eventually. You will not always be in this much pain and sorrow. Time does have a way of healing us - though it can be hard to believe that when we're in the midst of feeling so hurt.

2 - IT'S HORRIBLE TO HAVE YOUR HEART BROKEN - HORRIBLE.WE SYMPATHIZE COMPLETELY - BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN THERE!
Yes - let's acknowledge that what you're suffering is truly painful - difficult - hard to endure. We can sympathize because we've been there - and so have most people.

3 - REMEMBER, YOU'RE NOT ALONE.
Do remember that most people have been there. Very few of us get out of adolesence without a number of stabs to the heart - and for some of us - those "stabs" were a frequent part of our young adult years. So, you're not alone.

4 - ALLOW YOURSELF TIME AND SPACE TO GRIEVE.
You need to feel your pain and sorrow for a while. Sure, go ahead and play that great music you danced to/made love to/laughed with - that brings back searing, haunting memories - that really gets to you - do all those things - for a while. Cry your eyes out - of course! - that's what heartbreak does to you - you cry a lot.

5 - BE GOOD TO YOURSELF NOW
Treat yourself to whatever will help you to feel better: a fragrant bath, a new pair of shoes, a therapeutic massage, Chinese take-out, a Broadway musical (we're writing this in New York City - but there are live shows and concerts pretty much everywhere these days) - whatever will cheer you up a bit and help you to feel just a touch "special"

6 - DO NOT FALL BACK ON ALCOHOL, DRUGS, CIGARETTES OR FOOD!
All of those are terrible things to do to your system (in excess) and we caution you to try to avoid getting back into any kind of previous habits you've had and managed to shake. There are better ways to cope with your loss!

7 - LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE
That's one thing you can get from even the worst experience - WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS? A great rabbi once said, you can learn something from everything, meaning there's no experience that can't teach you something worthwhile.

8 - DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP.
Don't heap scorn on yourself for either being attracted to that person or for something you think you shouldn't have done. That won't help anyone! And don't trash your former lover, either. There must have been something nice/good/appealing about him/her or you wouldn't have fallen so hard, right?

9 - REMEMBER THAT IT USUALLY DOESN'T WORK TO DEPEND UPON ANOTHER PERSON FOR YOUR HAPPINESS.
As important as relationships are - and they are important - truly central to our lives - we all must find our own true selves and our own true paths in life - independent (to some extent) of our relationships.

10 - REMEMBER THERE ARE OTHER FISHES IN THE SEA - IT'S JUST A FACT OF NATURE.
Do you think Mother Nature would set up a system whereby there is only one single person in all the world who could make each one of us happy - when the world is such a gigantic place?

11 - RE-ESTABLISH, RE-AFFIRM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR FRIENDS.
There's nothing like good, warm, understanding, loving and lovable friends after a heartbreak.

12 - TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY...AND - THIS TOO SHALL PASS
- believe me - THIS TOO SHALL PASS...

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There are more for me to find out.
There are more for me to see..
There are too much for me to understand..
The tears I wish to wipe away,
will soon run unchecked for another dayy..
Sighh... that is the price I need to pay..

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Actually.. it was all just a messy dilemma that never wished to happen..